Interesting comments. I have mentioned the pain of love often. I think it is a part of life. I have always been the other way, in that I will allow love to find me and I do not create walls. Of course, I have experienced the very pain that you all fear so much. Yet, I am here. I live! I muddled through my darkest hour and I came away a better person. We are all tempered by pain, just as metal is tempered through the flame. Heartbreak is as much a part of living as are death and taxes. I should think that my life would have been far less enjoyable had I avoided finding true love simply out of fear that I could be hurt.