HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, I suppose this is as good a thread as any to tell the story. Not all THAT much to tell, actually. I had a girlfriend (Barbie..YES! Her real name) back when I was about 16 or 17. One night, I snuck her into my room. I planned to go in with her after dinner. My younger brother happened into my room and found her (with no clothes) in my closet. HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TRUE story!! He was all bug-eyed and scared! Came to me in a panic. I got him to keep quiet and I went to bed. She left after my parents went to work in the morning. [Show/Hide Quoted Message](Quoting Message by _strat_ from Tuesday, May 12, 2009 1:28:16 PM)
_strat_ wrote:
A girl in the closet?!?! Did you have them on stock, or something?
Sorry, but that just made me laugh out loud...
Deep Freeze wrote:
Hmm. Now THIS is an interesting question! You know, I have a problem with it all together but I really think that has to do with upbringing. I mean, there is just NO way I would allow my son or daughter to have a girlfriend or boyfriend stay the night. Period. In fact, even at eighteen there is a lack of mental development and yet we consider them "adults". HA!!!!!!!!!! The fact is, children are not able to make that kind of decision (sexual activity) and understand its ramifications, so they should not be put into that kind of situation in the first place.
HB makes the point that they will find a way. This is quite true, however, I do not want to "appear" to be against casual sex. I AM against it. At least as far as children are concerned. I do not think allowing children to wear make up is wise. Or watch questionable movies. Or speak using foul language. Or drink alcohol (under adult supervision). The point is, as parents, we must establish boundaries and make it clear as to why they are not to be broached. It is not a "control" issue. It is a decency issue. It is how parents teach values. You remember those, don't you? Values? Some of us do.
HB is right. They are going to "do it". We did. My parents did. Their parents did. The point is, it is our responsibility to guide them towards understanding what it means to have self-respect. How to conduct oneself in society. My parents would NEVER have allowed me to bring a girlfriend over for the night. Never. Of course, I did hide one in my bedroom closet once.....HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! True story but not for this post!!! HAHAHAHAA!!!
It is a matter of leading them in the right directions and showing them what is expected of decent society. Children actually DO look to parents for that kind of thing...believe it or not! It is important that we establish the tent poles of decency and build that for them.
